Are you trying to be a super hero in your own life?
Do you wake up every morning and like my oldest son, grab your cape and and put on your mask before you jump out of your room?
In other words: are you trying to do everything, be everything, and accomplish everything?
Do you buy every course that comes your way? Grab every free ebook that you see? Comment on every blog? Subscribe to every newsletter? Listen to every podcast?
Are you following the advice of every guru out there? Are you trying to make everyone happy? Are you trying to be the best at everything that you do?
How’s that working out for you? My guess is that it isn’t.
What I’m really getting at is this: are you trying to do the impossible? None of us are super heroes and none of us are meant to be.
The people that we look to who seem to be able to do it all and accomplish it all are able to do it all because they don’t do it all. No that isn’t an oxymoron. They are able to get it all done because they delegate. They hire people to do a lot of things for themselves.
Maybe you’re new to online marketing, social media and all of that. Perhaps you got involved with all of that to get your behind out of massive debt that you’ve created for yourself. You’re looking around at these successful people online and you want to accomplish what they are accomplishing.
Is that realistic? Really?
You have debt and you spent money that you didn’t have (or you spent the last of your spare change) on web hosting. You are spent and don’t have a dime to spend on anything else. Are you really going to be able to create the same results as those who are making their living online?
They have the whole day to write out a blog post, they have all afternoon to promote that post all over the web, they have the money to buy the tools to have that automated. Do you have all of that? Are you working full time with a stressful two hour commute round trip? Do you have kids who need to go to soccer practice and get help with their homework?
Let me tell you one thing. You will feel overwhelmed if you are living a busy and demanding lifestyle and if you expect to be able to produce the same results as others who are not in the same boat as you.
Hey, wait a minute! What happened? Isn’t this supposed to be a personal development blog? Where is the sunshine and lollipops?
Part of true personal growth is to look at where we are at and where our goals are taking us. Living in frustration while pretending to toot rainbows isn’t going to do anyone a bit of good. That’s reality and facing it will bring some real development.
I want to share with you a bit of my own reality. I started this blog for two primary reasons, though I have found many more reasons in the two years that I’ve been calling this my online home. The first reason was that I wanted to find leads for my business. The second was because I have always been passionate about personal development and blogging seemed like a great way to bring the two together.
There was one major problem that I was not aware of, nor would I be for a very long time. That problem was that I really didn’t want to be involved with the business that I was in. I’m not saying that there’s anything wrong with the business or the structure to earn an income with it. Neither is true, but it is not for me. I jumped on board because my husband was so excited about it.
I am a highly introverted person with social anxiety. Thanks to personal development and also my faith I have come a long way in improving the anxiety. But I still deal with anxiety when I meet new people and I hate the thought of getting leads or trying to sell anyone anything. It’s just not my cup of tea.
Which has lead to the fact that as popular as this blog has become it has so far done very little to bring any kind of income like I had originally hoped. I’ve made very few affiliate sales, sold only a handful of my ebooks (I’ve done better on kindle!) and I haven’t made much money with advertising or anything else. I’ve won a little money with blogging contests.
I’ve gotten a lot of other benefits that add up to a lot. I was given a $500 personal growth course earlier this year for free, that was awesome! I’ve received numerous free books. Free premium plugins. I even won a very nice laptop recently! I’ve made some amazing relationships and you can’t put a price tag on those. I’m sure that I’m forgetting other great freebies that I’ve picked up – it’s late and I’ve had a long week.
Though I’m very grateful for everything that I’ve gained through blogging (and believe me there is much more than I could list in one post) I found myself becoming very discouraged with blogging primarily because of the financial point of view. It is successful in that it helps a lot of people and the stats have gone up a lot over the last year. I receive a lot of requests for guest posts and tons of emails on a daily basis. But I really only come out even with the blog. I’m not a great marketer and I feel guilty about trying to sell people anything. I’m not saying that as a put down of myself, that’s just the way it is. I have a lot of strengths but they do not lay in marketing.
As a result of all of these mixed emotions I’ve backed away from blogging – and I’ve enjoyed some wonderful guest posts! I am very honored to have the guest authors that I do! Thank you all so much!
I didn’t just back away and hide from the world. Not for long anyway. I spent a lot of time really evaluating what it is that I really want out of blogging and my whole online presence. I considered what I wanted to do with my time and what I wanted to do to get myself on the road to becoming financially free.
You might be aware that for a good portion of this year I have been busy working on a novel. It’s a long buried dream that I’m bringing to reality. It is a lot of fun and I am excited about writing. Self publishing is an exciting industry that is really taking off. It’s an exciting time to be an author with so many options available.
It was a no-brainer that writing novels would be a big part of my plan. I don’t care what the gurus say, writing fiction is a tough industry to get into. Writing nonfiction (such as personal development!) is the way to go if you want to become a well known author. I love writing fiction and that’s what I am going to focus on. I’m going to write, write, write. I’m going to continue creating worlds and characters and giving them to the world to enjoy.
What does that mean for this blog? I will keep this blog and I will continue to write about personal development and blogging tips. I will also write more about writing and self publishing and I am no longer focusing on marketing or entrepreneurship. Not that that was ever really a huge focus here anyway.
It also means that I will be posting less consistently. If I don’t have anything valuable to share I’m not going to write anything. I’m going to write and share with you when I have something of value to say. Don’t worry, this particular post is much longer than normal. This is not my normal type of post.
Nearly everyone in the blogging field says that you need to post consistently to keep a following but that’s not entirely true. I’m following in the footsteps of Johnny B. Truant who is also a personal development blogger who is focused on writing fiction. He posts when he has something to say and he’s still doing quite well. His stats may have taken a hit (I’m guessing) and I’m sure mine will too but that’s okay because that’s not a goal I have right now.
I want to give value to my readers. Not garbage.
Another thing that this means for my blog is that I am still very happy to accept guest posts. Please follow the steps listed in the guest posting tab on the top of this page if you’re interested.
Stay tuned. I will be sharing about my upcoming fiction series very soon! I’ve been working very hard on it and I am excited to be moving in the direction of publication.
So that’s that. That’s where I stand and what you can expect from me and the blog. Thank you for taking the time to read all of this!
If you’d like to share your thoughts I’d love to hear them!
To Your Success,
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