Overcoming frustration, discouragement and overwhelm can be very challenging because we are starting from a place of negativity and or despair. It may feel impossible to get to a better place and it certainly can seem like it may last forever.
We have all been there. Everything feels like it is against us, nothing is going the way that we want it to, it can feel like our whole world is crashing down around us. We may feel like screaming, crying, throwing things, blaming others, sleeping, hiding, eating junk or pulling our hair out.
I am well aware of this because this is something that has been a very real struggle in my life over the past week.
I’ve felt everything listed above at one point or another during that time. I’ve been able to pull out of the hole and thought this would be an ideal time to share how I was able to do so…and how you can too.
The first thing to realize is that these challenging times can come at us for a variety of reasons. It isn’t because we are failures, bad people, lacking in personal development, etc.
The challenge of Resistance
Perhaps we are on the verge of some breakthrough in life or business. Resistance often rears it’s ugly head at this time of our lives to test us and prepare us for the success ahead.
Resistance can from ourselves if we have any type of fear of success. Fear of success may sound strange but it is in fact very common because success is new territory and we as people tend to like our comfort zones. Even if we complain about them and find discomfort there, the familiar discomfort seems better than the the unfamiliar success.
True success never comes easy, it is not without the price of challenges and obstacles.
The Challenge from Self-Infliction
Our state of frustration or discouragement can be self-inflicted in a number of ways. It could from a negative mindset that is causing us to focus on what is wrong instead of what is right in life. Or it could be from not taking proper care of our bodies with the right kinds of nutrition and exercise. We could be ignoring self-care and allowing stress to overtake us.
In my case I believe that it was a combination of the two because I have big plans for growing my business and I laid out a solid plan based on my study of other successful people. Once I get this plan in action I know that I will see big changes in my business!
Also I was slacking in my self-care by skipping out on my daily meditation for a couple of days and eating poorly while I started to focus on some negatives in my life instead of the positives. As a result I felt that the world was crumbling down on me and that there was no way out. I couldn’t see any light, I felt alone and helpless.
That was not the end of the story! I didn’t give into my feelings nor did I give up, I took steps that I knew would help me to overcome. Even though at some points I really did not want to!
9 Ways to Overcome
It is possible to overcome these feelings overwhelm and despair. There are several steps that we can take to pull ourselves out even a deep funk. Like I have already mentioned, I was able to do so.
Don’t go there! The first thing that you should do is to stop yourself from going “there” – to the place of negativity. Don’t allow yourself to dwell on what has you worried or stressed out. In the state that you are in it will do you no good at all! Later when your mindset and emotions are strong you can look at the challenges and find solutions. Now is not the time for that! Just don’t go there at all.
Focus on the positives. Look as hard as you need to so that you can find the positives in your life because they really are there. Find those things and think about them. If that truly is impossible (and it may be at this point) then try saying some affirmations to get your mind going in the right direction.
Take care of your spirit. This will mean different things to different people. It may mean reading, praying, meditating, singing, praising, and so much more.
Talk to someone. You really need to talk with others so it’s important to reach out to people who will be able to help you. Reach out to friends in your online community who have been where you are. That’s what I did in a couple of the areas of life and business that I was feeling so frustrated about. Talk to a friend in real life or even go your doctor or local emergency room if it’s that urgent.
Focus on humor. This may sound strange but if you can get yourself laughing you will do yourself a world of good. You can completely change your outlook with this. I went to Pinterest and searched out some topics of humor that I enjoy. At first even things that I normally would laugh at didn’t even phase me but I kept going. Pretty soon I did crack a smile, then a bit later I nearly giggled. Before I knew it I was literally laughing out loud and I felt so much better.
Exercise and eat right. Take these simple steps to take care of your body because if it is running optimally it will serve you both physically and mentally. Exercise will literally help you to feel better! I did a mere ten minute workout that I found online (randomabs) and it helped me to feel a lot better! Take care of your body and it will take care of you.
Feed your mind. It is just as important to feed your mind with good things that it needs. Read personal development books and blogs (you’re on the right track here!), listen to audio books and podcasts. Feed your mind constantly, it’s okay to overfeed it the good stuff. I listened to a lot of personal growth podcasts which really helped out a lot. Also listen to uplifting music, meditate, etc.
Take a break. Take a break from whatever may be causing you stress or overwhelming you. Step back from some responsibilities for a while. Ignore your emails, say no to people who want you to do something that you know will cause you more distress. Take time away from people who are not supporting you.
Fill the air with pleasant scents. Different scents can have different effects on how we feel. They can energize, relax, invigorate, inspire, etc. You can burn candles, incense, boil some cinnamon in water on the stove, use essential oils, and even air fresheners. A little research will help you find exactly what you need!
To Your Success,