I know how it feels to be stuck in a negative thinking. I spent a long time speaking negatively to myself, thinking negative thoughts, believing negative beliefs. I’ve been there, done that and even got the t-shirt…
One very important thing that I learned is that what we allow ourselves to think becomes our entire belief system and also our reality.
Let me say that again in case you didn’t catch it.
The thoughts that we allow ourselves to think about and focus on become our entire belief system and also our reality.
If you expect negative things to come your way then you will not only be on the lookout for them but then when something that you perceive as negative happens you will also tell yourself, “I knew that would happen!” and you have completed a self-fulling prophecy. This is also known as the law of attraction.
You will then continue in that cycle with each event and thought that you experience. Your beliefs and thoughts will continue to reinforce your experiences and vice verca.
But if you allow yourself a different set of thoughts you will react differently to the same negative things that happen in life.
You will need to replace those thoughts with new ones.
Instead of giving into the negativity of it you will be able to say, “This is a challenge to overcome” and you will look for the good in the situation and you will find ways that you can grow and learn from the experience. It will indeed become a positive experience because of the action that you took. When all said and done you will feel on top of the world!
The only difference between those two scenarios are the mindsets. I have seen many instances where two people go through the same difficulty and the negative person digs themselves deeper into a hole whereas the other person comes out a better person. The second person isn’t better than the first, they just chose to handle their thoughts differently and therefore their actions are completely different allowing them a different outcome.
To move from negative to positive thoughts I suggest the following:
- Pay close attention to your thoughts and the way that you talk to yourself.
- Write down the thoughts and self talk for a day and see if you’re allowing the thoughts that you desire.
- Use afformations to build new thought and self talk patterns in your life.
You will eventually start to have new beliefs and you will be able to create a whole new belief system for yourself! You may not even think that it will make a difference (I’ve been there too!) but you will surprise yourself when you start to see changes in the way that you think and look at things.
The thoughts that you think have so much power and they even wire your brain into different patterns. It’s amazing how it works! A while ago I read a very powerful post on this topic called How Positive Thinking Rewires The Brain. I highly recommend you read it! But before you do please comment here first and share this post if you found it interesting or helpful!
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Hi Stacy, I find when I’m in a crappy or bad mod I cannot write content. I just cannot find it in myself to write positively. When this happens I just give it a rest or try to change my mood somehow. Your mood 100% reflects the type of work you can write and produce.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:21 pm
Hi Brian,
It really does make all the difference what mood and mindset we are in! At least we are able to change both with some work!
Stacy
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I see this happen all the time among servers I work with. They’ll get a table and as they look at it — before they’ve even walked up to the table — and say they’re going to get a bad tip off of it. I’ve done this a few times myself, but try to catch myself when I do it. The thing is, those who do this regularly also complain about an hour later when they get a bad tip.
I’m not always successful with remembering to do this, but I try to think about getting a good tip from a table as much as I can. And I usually do. Even if I do get a bad tip, once I get past the disappointment (pretty quick for me), I try to start looking at what could have gone better so that if it’s something I had control over, I can do better the next time. Just following that little strategy quickly helped me improve as a server.
Great post today, Stacy!
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Hi Grady,
That’s a great attitude to have, looking for what can be learned rather than getting stuck in the disappintment.
Thanks for sharing!
Stacy
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It is so powerful once you realize that you can change your own thoughts and thus change your perspective on life. Two people can see the exact same situation completely differently because of their perspectives and way they are veiwing life.
Great post and I love the cute monkey pic. He looks so thoughtful lol
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:27 pm
Hi Bonnie,
It really is powerful, it can be downright life changing!
It takes work but it is worth it!
Stacy
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Thinking too much negative can absolutely make you crazy! Not literally crazy but can totally destroy your mood and in the long run can ruin your plans. Procrastinating all day long won’t be helpful, but avoiding it to happen can be very difficult. It’s just a matter of improving yourself and focusing more on the positive side of the situation.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:28 pm
That is so true, Greg. Thank you for sharing!
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A person who get rid of negative thoughts and enters himself into the region of positive thoughts is on the way of real learning.Thinking positive is real life.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:28 pm
Yes, that’s true. Thank you for sharing, Maja!
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Beautiful post Stacy!
Yes indeed, I think most of us go through the negative mood swings when everything we see is negative and we are not able to think straight- due to various reasons. And you are so right in saying that negativity is what attracts more negativity- that is the law of attraction.
I guess we have to make the changes within ourselves, without really trying to make changes in things or the people around us. That would also change the negative thoughts to positive ones.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:31 pm
Thank you, Harleena!
We really do need to make the effort to change ourselves. We can’t change anything outside of ourselves! Though hopefully we can influence others to be more positive!
Thanks for sharing!
Stacy
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Well, It’s really difficult to overcome from negative thoughts. First you must find out that your thinking is negative only then you can take corrective actions to convert it into positive thinkings. Self talk is important so that you can analyze your way of working and thinking and it’s the best way to overcome from negative thinkings.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:34 pm
Hi Aaron,
Yes, it’s quite a process though I have found that with practice it gets easier!
Thanks for sharing,
Stacy
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Thank you Stacy.
I think your idea of writing down your thoughts can be very powerful. If you just record all your (unfiltered) thoughts and self-talk on a notepad or your journal, and then look at it, you may notice and realize patterns and inner beliefs that you were not aware of.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:34 pm
Thank you for sharing your thoughts, Yuval!
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Hi Stacy,
Our thoughts are things. We attract what we think about in the long run. A good audio program that has helped me think positively is the CD “The Strangest Secret” by Earl Nightingale. You are basically what you feed your mind.
The good news is that we have the power to reprogram our minds to think healthy, positive thoughts. Sometimes a detox of the mind is necessary.
Thanks for sharing!
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:37 pm
Hi Etieno,
I’ve heard of that audio, I really ought to check that out. Thank you!
Stacy
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Etieno Etuk Reply:
November 4th, 2011 at 3:40 am
You’re welcome, Stacy. I found a link on Youtube for you to listen to it. Here it is: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=1Y5g2Pe08uc
I’m sure you’ll enjoy listening to it.
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Stacy Reply:
November 7th, 2011 at 3:41 pm
Eiteno,
Thank you so much for taking the time to share the link with me! I can’t wait to watch it!
Take care,
Stacy
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Maybe I’m trying too hard to think positive. I’ve listend to the Tony Robbins tapes. I’ve studied the Secret DVD. None of it seems to work, mo matter how much faith I put into it. Prayer isn’t working either…
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:38 pm
Hi Dave,
It takes time, have you read The Slight Edge by Jeff Olson? That book is excellent and explains why the process can seem so slow at the beginning. You can also search “slight edge” here on my blog for more information on the process.
Take care,
Stacy
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Some great advice here. As Aaron says, it can be tricky to catch these thoughts as they come in. I find it helpful to just accept that you are going to have them, and then let them wash over you.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:39 pm
Thank you, Sam!
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Absolutely. The power of positive thinking should never be under-estimated. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, nothing is good or ill but thinking makes it so, and the Schrodinger’s Cat isn’t dead or alive until you open the box and look at it. Your perceptions can have a very real effect on how your life unfolds.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:42 pm
Hi Sam,
Our perceptions really do have a big impact on how our life unfolds!
Stacy
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Well this hits the nail right on the head for me and my blog. I have struggled with anxiety for years, but it is only since I learned that I engaging in a lot of negative thinking (stinking thinking) that I was able to take the anxiety bull by the horns, so to speak. Life really has changed for me and it *is* a personal choice. Is it always easy? No, but therein lies the challenge. I try to teach this to my readers as well. Thank you for the very helpful post, it applies to business and so many life situations
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:43 pm
Hi Jill,
Thanks for your comment! No, it’s not easy but it is definitely worth it!
Stacy
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Hi Stacy, indeed attitude is everything and can prove key in getting you back into a positive frame of mind. But in reply to Dave I think you need to have a firm action plan to apply your attitude to which can then create some positive momentum in your life.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:51 pm
Hi Marvin,
Very true! Thank you for sharing your thoughts!
Stacy
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Hi Stacy,
I certainly have my fair share of negative thinking. It’s a constant alignment process. However, I have found that the more I affirm the positives, the greater is my ability to maintain the positive paradigm. My favorite afformation is to ask myself “what-if”. I don’t answer the question of course but I trust my subconscious to come up with some insightful answers.
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With love,
Evelyn
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:53 pm
Hi Evelyn,
You’re right, it’s definitely a constant alignment process! That’s a great afformation, thank you for sharing and for visiting again! It’s great to see you here!
Stacy
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Such a great way to live.. Thanks for posting such a very insightful blog! Keep up the good work!
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:53 pm
Thank you, Natzie!
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Hi Stacy,
This is a very well explained post that is very true. Before I always stuck thinking a lot of negatives thoughts specially when I am having a huge problem. But somebody really explained me the power of positive thoughts! And I am very thankful right at that very moment.
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:53 pm
Thank you for sharing your insights, Rachelle!
Stacy
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When you say the law of attraction do you mean like, The Secret? I read that and keep trying to stay positive, but it doesn’t always work. do you think the law of attraction REALLY works? I want it to…
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:56 pm
Hi Sara,
I haven’t actually read the book, but I have read a lot about the LOA and the theory behind it. I have found it true.
A good example that I read once was if you decide to look for a used motorcycle you will end up finding one simply because your mind will be open to finding them. You will suddenly notice used motorcycles all over the place, when before you decided to look for them you would not have noticed. It wasn’t that they weren’t there, but you weren’t looking before. The same applies for negative and positive thinking and expectations.
Stacy
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I know this is going to take a lot of practice to do, but I will definitely try your method. Hope this stops me from being the negative type! Thank you for your tips and pointers on this issue! I’ll get back as soon as I see the first sign that I’m changing!
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Stacy Reply:
November 2nd, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Hi Gracia,
Yes, it does take practice. It took me a while to get out my negative mindsets – and they still pop up. So it’s not a matter of never having negative thoughts, but knowing how to get rid of them and move away from them!
Stacy
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Hey Stacy,
Negative thinking is something that will stop you from accomplishing the things you desire in your life.
Replacing negative thoughts with positive ones is something I first came across in Napoleon’s book “Think and Grow Rich”. I think utilizing affirmations is the best way to replace negative thoughts in your belief system with positive ones. Thanks for sharing.
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Stacy Reply:
November 7th, 2011 at 3:38 pm
That is very true, John. Thank you for relating it to TAGR!
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It’s definitely true by changing negative to positive thoughts is a big challenge to overcome.
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Stacy Reply:
November 7th, 2011 at 4:19 pm
Yes, it is! Thank you for stopping by!
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You can move negative thoughts into positive if you admit to your self that you are thinking negatively… It’s a little by little process but surely you’ll overcome it later.
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It is very difficult to move from negative to positive attitude but the who can do this can enjoy his real life.
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Its very relief if you move negative to positive, realization that you cannot gained nothing if you think negative always.
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‘The thoughts that we allow ourselves to think about and focus on become our entire belief system and also our reality’. It’s like the law of attraction – What you feel and what you think would attract everything. Thanks!
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I admit that i’m a negative person. It’s hard for to change this attitude. And it’s a big challenge to overcome this. But i will try the method you have mentioned. Thanks for the thoughts.
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Hi Stacy,
I never had this problem before, but recently whenever I have a midterm for my class all these negative thoughts going through my head. I find myself taking multiple breathers and trying to put positive thoughts into my head, but it doesn’t work. Do you know if there is a physical activity I can do to prevent this?
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It’s always a struggle for me everyday to shift my thoughts from negative to positive. When I’m feeling bad or low its really difficult to think positive thoughts.
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Hi Stacy,
You are so right and this is a very well written and organized post.
I used to have lots of negative thoughts until I realized, after much reading and exploring, that being positive was something I could choose. Now, I am much more positive. It really is affirming when one of my friends tell me they think I am nice to be around and they consider me to be inspiring to them.
Thanks for this post because I certainly need to be reminded to remain positive. Sally
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This is a challenge to overcome and you will look for the good in the situation and you will find ways that you can grow and learn from the experience. It will indeed become a positive experience because of the action that you took.
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I totally agree with this post. our thought process affects who we become. i’ve seen how joining a new group and trying to change my negative thought on a certain aspect of my business immediately attracted a new client from that same day (some people would say it was a divine connection or something cos the client wasnt even in the new group i joined). but the point is, when you change your thoughts to something new, you attract people and things that are like what you now think about. John Maxwell talks about the law of magnetism in 21 irrefutable laws of leadership and i think our thought patterns are actually like that.
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Thanks for sharing this wonderful post! I’ve been so negative thinker before. I talk a lot negative words to my friends, my self and etc. And someone told me that why your so negative? Do you mistrust yourself? That questions help me a lot to change my behavior when it comes to thinking. So, I change. I force myself to think positive and that changes help me pursue my goals.
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This article makes me understand a lot.
I’m also a negative thinker before but my uncle who’s my mentor is always encourage me to be a positive thinker.
And now, even things is impossible, I still think I can make it.
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I agree Stacy,
Negative thoughts are like poison. They will destroy us slowly (and sometimes, painfully). I was once a victim of it. But after reading some self-improvement books from Napoleon Hill and Brian Tracy, I understand that if I wanna be a better person, first I have to believe that I can become that better one.
Now I’m more self-confident. And the fact that I’m now building my business online tells the story. I haven’t had much success yet, but I believe I will make it soon.
Thanks again for this post, it really is a good one!
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this is a good site and i am read your site now i am move negative thinking to positive thinking
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Why theirs a lot of people think negative in life, me i admit i think negative sometimes but i realize it cant help me if i think negative.
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To change attitude from negative to positive one have to kill one’s previous life and should take new born for positive life.
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Stacy Reply:
December 9th, 2011 at 4:14 pm
I don’t know if you need to kill your whole previous life but it can feel like you are removing a large part of your life, but it will be for the better!
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Thanks for the motivation. I really a post like this.. Keep posting some more!
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Stacy Reply:
December 9th, 2011 at 4:32 pm
Thank you, Jessica!
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One of my favorite quotes:
“Whether you think you can, or you think you can’t–you’re right.” – Henry Ford
Nice article.
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