Often in life when we are in a situation in life we are there because of false beliefs that we hold. We may have either created those beliefs on our own or we may have learned them from someone else. Regardless of how we got these false beliefs we have them and they are limiting the life that we could be living.
How do we get rid of these limiting beliefs?
First we must discover what those false beliefs are that we have. If we don’t recognize them as false we will walk around believing them to be true and nothing will change.
How do we discover our false beliefs? If we don’t know they are false how can we recognize them as false?
That’s a great question, I’m glad you asked!
There are several ways that we can uncover the false beliefs. We can use one or all, though of course we would do more for ourselves if we use each one.
1. Spend some time evaluating the areas of our lives where we feel stressed, trapped, stuck, or any other negative or frustrated emotion. We are there because of one or more beliefs that we are holding onto. If you don’t believe that then you have your work cut out for in finding your false beliefs! You may want to try the next suggestions.
2. Ask a friend for their insights, often the people in our lives can see things that we cannot see. They are more objective and that can have a real advantage if we are willing to listen to them! If you aren’t sure about the validity of what they are saying ask another friend or two for their thoughts. Just be sure that you are asking friends who will tell you the truth and not friends who will only tell you what they think you want to hear. That won’t help you to make the changes that you need to make.
3. Get a book on the topic. Reading books will give you ideas that you wouldn’t have thought of on your own. If you feel stuck in a relationship, grab a good relationship book. If you feel stuck in your business, grab a well respected business book. Wherever you feel stuck, find a book on the topic! I can’t tell you how many times I have found answers that I didn’t know that I was looking for when reading a book on a needed topic! I don’t even have to ask the author to point out my false beliefs, they do that for me anyway!
Once you have uncovered your false beliefs you now get to work!
- Focus: Spend at least ten minutes twice a day thinking intently (or meditating) on the true beliefs that you need to start believing. Keep this up for at least a week, though more time may be needed!
- Afform or Affirm: Turn those beliefs into afformations or affirmations that you can repeat to yourself throughout the day each day.
- Live it out: Start living as if you believe the new beliefs even if you don’t yet believe them!
Are you aware of any limiting beliefs that you are holding onto? If so, what is your plan of action to remove them from your life?
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I’ve spent the last few months thinking about my life. I have a successful career and an amazing family but realized I wasn’t that happy.
I felt that all of the time I spent working in an office was taking me away from the things that were important to me, being with my family.
I’ve always thought that I could just start my own business but didn’t think that I knew enough to be successful. That limiting thought has held me back for years.
I’m finding that my work helping local businesses is rewarding and is giving me the time to spend with my family.
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Stacy, when I find myself butting my head up against a wall a false belief is usually the culprit.
Digging in deeper by asking myself questions usually helps me to break through them.
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I think asking from your friends and family members is great way to detect false, there were many stances in my life where my friends really help me out.
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Friends and families are people you can rely on in giving you feedback and motivation. However, I also think that you also need to be discerning as they may have wrong interpretations of your behavior and actions. Conversation is key.
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Hi Stacy,
thanks for touching this subject. The problem with limiting beliefs is that once we detect one and turn it around, another one rears its ugly head. It’s like a hydra because the ego tries to keep us busy with that. So I just found out that it is critical to realize that we are not our limiting beliefs and that it’s only a decision whether we consider some of our beliefs as limiting or not.
Take care
Oliver
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Thanks Stacy for taking this fact point in light…
Everybody wanted to achieve massive success but few of them able to achieve. Many times we faces some failure than holdup their and going for other one this is not the way to achieve success. Don’t do this any more just make over and search for the things which makes it failure and resolve it for success.
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Asking for a friend’s insights is always a good solution as they might see things in a different way than you ever even imagine. This way you get get new ideas to go for. And we should not let failure stop us!
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HI stacey,
This is a very thought-provoking article. I think you should always get a way from people who is always negative, I find it drains me
~Easther
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Hi, Stacy!
I think we can accomplish as much as we want. If we do not trust in ourselves and thus limit our beliefs in success, we will not make it through. We can always have support from our friends, community and family, but what is of utmost importance is that we start believing for ourselves.
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I like reading your articles, Stacy. Always keep expanding my way of looking over life in general:)And they really keep me ambitious and give me faith that someday I will “connect the dotes”:)
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I like this list. Those ideas are simply and yet highly effective to become more aware of and change limiting beliefs. Thanks for posting!
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Hi Stacy,
I enjoyed reading your post.
It’s interesting that we set our limiting beliefs all the time in both ways: consciously and unconsciously.
For example you can say: I have a lot of trash in my head…so it is. Or: I keep adding empowering beliefs that support my goals everyday.
Affirmations and afformations work very well but to clear all the unconscious thoughts you can go deeper.
I use to observe my thoughts, feelings or words, release the resistance and then choose something more empowering.
Also, Ho’oponopono it’s a very simple way to clear yourself from the limiting beliefs and programs from the past with the 4 expressions: I’m sorry, Please forgive me, Thank you, I love you. Powerful way of living:)
Thanks for sharing your insights with us.
Wish you a blessed day,
Radu
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You got it Stacy. First we have to find our limiting beliefs before we can deal with them.
The way I do it, is if I seem myself with one, I destroy it as quickly as possible. There should be no such thing as a limiting belief. We can do anything we put our minds to. Anything. Nothing should stand in our way. Especially some intangible belief!
Thanks for sharing.
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Dont be afraid to push the envelope. Even if friends and family don’t agree. Take a chance, stick with it and do it for yourself.
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Talking to your friend really helps to pull out those false thoughts that we are unaware that we have.
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Thanks for putting out this information, Stacy. You’re right. We have to seek out and find those false or limiting beliefs that we have about ourselves. Once we find them, we’re able to deal with them. This will then give room for us to fill ourselves up with empowering beliefs. We have to proactive about this because this can’t happen without us taking the consistent action to get there.
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I think it is the norm to have such beliefs that limit us because people around us do not agree with this, and they think that if we deviate from the normal way of how things are, we will surely fail. For instance, it is the norm to study and graduate from college in order to have a promising career, but there are those (like Steve Jobs and other famous personalities) who have no college degree or did not even finish high school and still ended up more successful in life than those who have graduated.
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Yet again a great post. I really like the tips you give they are really informative and helpful to me. Keep on the good work.
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Hi Stacy!
You are right. Very often the problem is the problem in our seeing. We should be able to look at it from different angles, not only judging it by our set of beliefs. And we should never be afraid to ask for help from our friends. Again, they can provide a fresh view on the problem and help you with advice.
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Thanks for showing me some points to go outside my box. I’m not limiting myself that much but some fears keep locking me in. I always tend to get into conversations and ask others opinion for personal growth. Maybe for now, all I need is to focus on what I want ans start living it out. Thanks for the article!
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Hi Stacy,
Most of the limiting beliefs I think have come from our parents when we were children and also we learn most of these beliefs in the environment and society. If we want to live the most out of our lives, it is worth a try to do what we believe we can accomplish, even if many people do not think we can do it.
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Getting past unsuccessful thinking is no mean feat. Sometimes it becomes painfully necessary to reassess some of one’s own perceptions and assumptions before true gain can be made. While letting go of long-held assumptions is never easy, sometimes it’s more than worth the effort.
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Very nice post Stacy.
I think one of the hardest things to do is accepting that you have false beliefs. We just don’t want to admit it or we try to avoid facing it altogether.
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I really like the tips you give they are really informative and helpful to me.If we want to live the most out of our lives, it is worth a try to do what we believe
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Agree with you Stacy and your suggestions are to the point. Personally I believe reading is fantastic. Sometimes you are not aware that you are stuck but while reading fiction, a biography or any kind of book you suddenly realise that you can look at a subject from another point of view.
Some people poor out their hearts to someone sitting next to them on a plane. Can actually be annoying sometimes. The other day a person started telling me she was depressed. Explained to her that it’s all in her mind.At the end of our conversation she was in tears and really grateful to me for sorting her mind out. That wouldn’t have been the case if I had said “poor you”….
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Hi Stacy,
Some people would say that I’m limiting myself by doing this, but I form my beliefs from the concepts in the Bible. It is a simple enough guideline if you use it to learn how MUCH good you can do instead of using it to see how much you can get away with. Success comes from your personal relationship with Jesus and everything else is what He gives you to accomplish the mission in life He has for you. What could be easier?!
Lou
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Hi Stacy,
I am a little late getting to this post than I intended. WOW, I had no idea of what your post was all about! If you were in service with us Thursday you would have thought I preached from your blog post, LOL! I spoke about personal discovery. Gave meanings of the word discovery such as you used above – uncover!
Used Adam and Eve as the example.
You are so right! It takes effort to discover some real deep down soul digging, but worth it in the end. My motto is: uncover, change, and grow in the new you!
Awesome post!
Best
Joe
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What an excellent post about limiting yourself. First we need to find our limiting beliefs before we deal with them. Thanks for sharing this resourceful post.
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I like to read as much as possible when I don’t understand something or need outside help, I don’t really like self-help type books but that’s why I go online and find blogs like yours to give me good guidance. I did read “He’s not that into you” but it was a gift! But i did like some of the stuff it said.
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Limiting ourselves means we are limiting our success to. Sometimes, we can achieve success slowly or sometimes not at all. No matter how hard we try, we can’t really push ourselves up towards success. Way back few years ago, when I’m really in big trouble, I’ve decided to rely on this book named “Purpose Driven Life”. I could say that a part of me changed because of that. Then as I go on, asking a friend about their insights helped me discovered my attitude towards things. Now, I’ve started to evaluate myself and I’m so lucky to have a clearer mind than before. As this learning process goes, I still revisit the previous processes I’ve gone thru. In that way, I can build a better me.
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Its true key of success is to prove that your capable of your skill, but sometimes we think that were strong enough and forgetting something that we cannot do all thing without the help of others.
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I think that asking friends for advice is definitely a good idea.
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Stacy Reply:
January 10th, 2012 at 9:30 am
It really is a great exercise!
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