I’m taking a vacation from blogging but I am reposting and polishing up an old post that didn’t get much attention over a year ago when my blog was very new. (Thanks to Pam for this great idea!)
It has been said that we will become the five people that we spend the most time with.
Who are you becoming?
Take a moment to stop and think about the five people that you spend the most time with. Imagine them with your mind’s eye. Hear their voices with your mind’s ear. Hold their attitudes with the hands of your heart.
Are these the people that you want to have such a large influence on you that you will become 1/5 of them?
Now think outside the box, think of other people that you spend a lot of time with…
This doesn’t have to include people that you see every day. This can include people that you talk to on the phone, people that you email daily, people who’s walls you write on often, and even blogs or books that you are reading!
- Who has the most influence on your thinking?
- Who do you go to for advice?
- Who gives you unsolicited advice?
Are these people positive or negative? Do these people believe in you? Do they tear you down or build you up? Do they encourage you to do your best in all that you do? Do they encourage you to do the right thing? Do they tell you the truth in caring way or do they only tell you what they think you want to hear?
- Are these people living successful lives?
- Do their lives inspire you to do more and be more?
- Do you look at their lives and want a similar type of life?
- Do you want to accomplish what they are doing?
- Do you want the kinds of relationships that they have?
If you answered no to any of those questions, why do you allow these people to be the most influential in your life?
What can you do to change the top five people in your life who will help you become what you want to be?
Every choice that we make takes us one step down one of two paths: the path of success or the path of failure. This is called the Slight Edge. The choices seem so small and so insignificant that they seemingly doesn’t matter.
For example, if you have the choice between a salad or a hamburger for lunch today it does not seem like a major difference either way. You won’t drop ten pounds immediately for choosing the salad any more than you will drop dead right there if you choose the hamburger.
But if you were to make that same choice every day for a month, two months, etc. you will find yourself moving toward either better health or health problems. Have you ever seen the movie “Super Size Me”??
The same Slight Edge philosophy runs true with the people that we allow in our inner circle of influence. Spend time in presence of successful people who are doing what you want to be doing, living the way that you want to be living is the only way to become what you want to become!
If your inner circle of influence is full of people who are unmotivated complainers it won’t be long before you are down that path – and it will happen so gradually (that’s why it’s called the slight edge) that you likely won’t even notice how it happened.
I’m not saying that you have to cut everyone out of your life who is not living the way that you want to be living! But it would be wise to cut out the time spent with those people unless you want to be like them.
Make sure that you are spending far greater amounts of time with your top five – the people that you want to influence you. Then you will be strong enough not let the other people in your life influence you down paths that you don’t want to go.
Make the small choices that don’t seem like they matter – and make them every day! Your life may not look any different tomorrow or next week, but in a year when you look back you will be astounded at the difference!! Be astounded in a good way next year!
I have been applying the Slight Edge to my life for more than a year since I originally wrote this post and I must say that I am happily astounded at the difference I see in myself and my life over this time! I listen to the audio every 2-3 months and get something new out of it each time to apply.
I can tell you this works and I can’t wait to see where I’m at in another year!
Also, this weekend I will have the opportunity to hear Jeff Olson, the author of the Slight Edge, in person! I’m sure that I will have much to share from that so stay tuned!
To Your Success,