I went to a very inspiring training over the weekend by Dave Savula who is the number one income earner in his company. Just by listening to him talk for a few minutes it becomes apparent why.
He is a true people magnet, you would really need to be a severely negative person to be unchanged by his presence. He has a personality that draws people in and keeps them listening attentively.
His mindset and attitude are second to none, he can make anyone feel like the most special person on the planet in a short period of time. He can get people who are not involved with his business to hand out information on his business to others.
There was so much to be learned from listening to him for a few hours that it could be overwhelming but I decided that I would take away just one thing that stood out to me from what he shared. This one thing is what I have decided to focus on and make a real effort to grow in personally in my own life and business.
It’s nothing revolutionary or unheard of, I have heard it from other greats as well.
Compliment people, but don’t just give out half hearted compliments. Give whole hearted compliments, give them liberally and often. Give compliments and thanks to everyone who does something for you. It’s a way to build up a relationship quickly but also a great way to build up others.
I’m not a rude person but giving away compliments like that is definitely something that I could grow in and I would love to have half the charisma that he has. In his pinky. Giving away compliments is a big part of who he is and why he has such success with people and that is what I would like to grow in!
Share your thoughts on giving compliments to others! Do you give away compliments liberally? Does it come naturally to you? Do you think that if you applied this it would positively affect your life?
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Hi Stacy,
thanks for sharing your insights. Interesting article. In my experience, people will become magnets if other people love themselves more when they’re around. I learned over time to give full-hearted compliments without bothering what the other might think. The question is: When someone doesn’t like giving compliments, how good is he or she in receiving compliments ? Either way, we have to be generous givers and excelllent receivers.
Take care
Oliver
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Stacy Reply:
July 19th, 2011 at 4:02 pm
Hi Oliver,
Thank you again for sharing your insights! That is a really great point about being able to receive compliments too. There are a lot of people who don’t want to receive them, they defer by putting down what was complimented (for instance, “This old thing?”)
Thank you,
Stacy
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Great post, I think that once you learn how to accept compliments…even if they aren’t wholehearted, they you learn how to give real honest and beautiful compliments as well.
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Stacy Reply:
July 19th, 2011 at 4:03 pm
Very true, thank you for sharing!
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Fantastic point, Stacy! I love giving complements (but I can always give more). I find that people have a kind of fear of praising others liberally. They don’t want to stand out, but also, they don’t want the other person to “get a big head”, as if praising people too much actually has negative consequences!!! Rubbish. Praising people doesn’t just make them feel good, it actually benefits us (the praiser) as well. And yeah, it generally makes people like you more…
Hugs,
Melody
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Stacy Reply:
July 19th, 2011 at 4:06 pm
Hi Melody,
It is sad when people think that complimenting someone will make them prideful, it’s especially sad when parents do that to their kids.
Thank you for sharing!
Stacy
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I agree with you Melody.
Keep inspiring!
I too actually love to appreciate little things that I see and of course it turns out to be a compliment. I make my friends or acquaintance feel comfortable around me. It’s nice if you don’t feel any negative vibes around you. Thanks for sharing this Stacy. I do agree with your post. ^_^ It not only builds confidence to others but friendship too.
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Stacy Reply:
July 20th, 2011 at 6:36 pm
Thanks, Alna! That’s a great point about it making others feel comfortable around us!
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I don’t believe I’m rude, but I generally hold out compliments for the few people that really deserve them. But that’s probably just because I don’t make compliments about the small things. And this is where I believe I should change / improve.
Thanks for sharing what you have learned !
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 4:49 pm
Matt, I don’t tend to focus on the smaller things so naturally I don’t compliment on them, either. I think that paying attention tot hose things will help me to grow in complimenting!
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If a person is pure in any wake of life, he will be magnet for others.Giving complements is a great virtue.
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 4:56 pm
Good point, Jamal. Thank you!
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Hi Stacy,
Giving out complements is wonderful. You can always find some way to complement someone.
I do this when in a store. When a cashier checks me out there is always something nice you can say to them.
I love to see how people react to being complemented. Sometimes when they get that blank look on there face I just say,”welcome is nice” and smile. they smile back. It is really fun.
I do always find something that I am sincere about.
Like your header on your blog Stacy, it is adorable. Just wants to make the readers smile when they see it.
Wonderful post. Keep up the refreshing work.
Debbie
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 4:57 pm
Hi Debbie,
Thank you for sharing! It could be a fun game to play, I really love to make people’s day.
Thank you also for the comment about my blog header!
Have a great day!
Stacy
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I love this topic Stacy and I totally 100% agree.
I always give people compliments and always thank people when they’ve done something nice to me. My mother raised me that way. Just to see their face light up when you tell them they look nice or I have a couple of older gentlemen that live in my complex and I call them good looking when I see them. The smiles on their faces is worth your weight in gold. To know you’ve made their day!
It’s a wonderful habit to have and I can’t wait to learn how this experience has helped you grow. I hope you’ll be blogging about it again soon.
Adrienne
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 4:58 pm
Hi Adrienne,
Thank you for sharing, what a wonderful story! I really want to build this into a life habit!
Stacy
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In have realized too that there are some people among us that are some kind of a “people magnets”. I have no idea why it is so and I am totally not one of them, but I love listening to these people, they are truly inspiring.
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 5:01 pm
They really are inspiring! It would be great to spend the day with them!
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Hi Stacy,
Great post and very good advice! I’m better in showing appreciation than giving out compliments. So this is definitely something I could improve on.
Thanks for sharing this, Stacy!
Ilka
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Stacy Reply:
July 21st, 2011 at 5:01 pm
Hi Ilka,
Thank you, I have the same tendancies as you do!
Stacy
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Hi Stacy!
Oh compliments are always welcome at anytime of the day. It has the ability to uplift spirits. But, we just have to be careful that we don’t border into flattery because by then people would really know if we’re already heaping praises that we all know they don’t actually deserve.
In one of the more interesting quotes that I memorized by heart, it was said that:
Praise undeserved is an insult in disguise.
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Stacy Reply:
July 22nd, 2011 at 7:26 am
Hi Elmar,
That’s a great point, we definitely need to be genuine in giving praise. Thanks for sharing that quote!
Stacy
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I think this is great advice and something I need to work on. In the past, I’ve held back from giving compliments out of fear that the receiver will get the right idea or also because it will slow down my pace at whatever I’m doing; I’m learning now though that being a positive person will make life easier for me and this is one step I’m going to take in that direction.
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:04 pm
Hi Karen,
That is a common misconception but it sounds like you are on a great path now!
Stacy
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Hi Stacy.
Many thanks to you for sharing this article. It’s a very useful and interesting one. I bet that many people will be able to get a good use from it.
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:05 pm
Thank you, Andrew!
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Thanks for such a wonderful post, Stacy!
I have been trying to give out compliments, but I know I can do a better job of it, and I think that I’ll make that a focus this week. I’ll see just how many compliments I can give out.
I think one reason that I haven’t given out as many as I could is that I just haven’t taken the time to notice the things I can compliment people on. Yet the times when I do, people really do seem to be surprised.
As I’m thinking about it, from someone who has done some work in a service type industry, the people who help us every day, whether it be a cashier or a waiter or the mechanic fixing our car, are most likely the least often to be complimented. They probably hear more complaints than anything. You can really make their day by telling them what they’re doing right, even if not everything is going for the best.
Thanks again for the post!
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:06 pm
Hi Grady,
Thank you very much for sharing your thoughts! You’re right it does take some time to notice things to compliment on but it really is worth the effort!
Stacy
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My advice is, just be open and honest with people. Humans can feel if you think badly of them, and they’ll react the same. But they can also feel if you want to be friendly. Smile, make eye contact, they’ll love you.
Making friends is easy.
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:06 pm
So true, thank you for sharing!
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Stacy -
Thanks for sharing these tips! I really do try to compliment people when I can, but only when I mean it. I figure if I can tell when someone’s complimenting me insincerely then so can everyone else, right?
Jen
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:06 pm
Hi Jen,
Yes the compliments really must be sincere or people will see right through us!
Stacy
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Great post, Stacy! I must admit that this is something that I often have to work on, but you are right that being more open to people is what it takes to get things done. However, the most important thing to remember is that we can always change our course if we don’t like where we are headed.
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:07 pm
Steve,
Great point that we can change our course any time!
Stacy
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Human society is build up with relationships and a man without relationships in not a complete human and definitely he cannot live a happy life. That is why as a punishment people are kept imprisoned and because of those prisoners really suffer. So your ideas are really nice and good
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:07 pm
Great points, thank you!
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Another important element of trust is communicating who you are and what you want. Don’t be the guys that feels like he has to hide parts of himself to be in a relationship. The greatest thing in building trust is the ability to be comfortable with yourself and talking about yourself with her. If you do that, she will feel like she can be comfortable sharing herself with you.
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:08 pm
Very true, thank you for sharing!
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This is a great idea. I use it when dealing with people – customers and employees, but for some reason it escaped me to do this on my blog.
@ Ilka – It think appreciation is every bit as valuable as compliments, particularly when you don’t know these people on your blog. I’ll keep both of this in my pocket as tools to use. Thanks!
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 3:09 pm
Thank you for sharing! I’m glad it inspired a new idea!
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Wow, Stacy, you’re the first author that I’ve ever seen who ever got involved in posting comments underneath the visitor comments. I’ve been on a lot of blogs and everything I’ve seen so far is just comments of visitors only. It’s like you not only wrote your post, but you also visit back here yourself on a regular basis to give feedback to your visitors. Kudos to you for being a webmaster who cares!
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Hi Stacy, I hope he has a big pinky.
Its nice that you got something very useful from him. Would you care to share more about what you have learned about Dave? Sounds like we all can learn more lessons from him.
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Hi Stacy, I agree with the importance of complimenting people once in a while especially with their job performance. It can boost their self confidence and make them more inspired to do their best at all times.
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Thanks for such a wonderful post, Stacy!
by reading this I learn how to accept compliments…even if they aren’t gave wholehearted,and you already told about mindset and attitude.yes really those are vary important in humans life.
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Stacy Reply:
June 20th, 2012 at 10:20 am
That can be a difficult task for some people. It’s something that I’ve grown in myself!
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