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Hey Stacey,
Your post is so enlightening and true. These are some of the choices we need to make to stay grounded, focused and at peace within. You are so young, what are you talking about? You are perfectly on the best path of your life. I learned these lessons later on in life, I can say that I would have wanted to know then (especially when raising my children) what I know now. But, it’s all good!!
You have a good message here.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:28 am
Thank you very much for your comment! As long as we learn lessons then we are doing good!
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Hi Stacy,
These are all really great points.
I know people that try with all their hearts to please everyone around them, and usually end up heartbroken over it.
I really like the one about being unique. That’s so important!
Great and inspiring post. Thanks!
Susanna
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:27 am
Thank you for your thoughts, Susanna! You’re right that people usually end up hurt when they try to make everyone happy.
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Great post!
All 6 are good but number 7…
Make everyone happy. We can’t make anybody happy. Because happiness is inside of each of us. We can create circumstances, buy presents, give money, hold a hand…but we can not create the happiness inside that other person.
But because most of us do not think about that we try to do everything to make others happy…
We all want to be loved and we are ready to do funny things to get love. We’re very clever.
But far too often lonely and lost when alone in bed at night…
Thanks for this inspiring post. Good start for my day!
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:26 am
Thank you for your reply! Very insightful!
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That’s a great list Stacy and thank you for your participation in the Life Lessons Series.
Your link is up at http://www.abubakarjamil.com/life-lessons-series/
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:25 am
Thank you, Abubaker! I am excited to be part of the series!
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These are wonderful life lessons. I still worry sometimes what others think of me and I’m 44 years old! I know it’s silly, but old ingrained habits are hard to break.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:24 am
Thank you, Lisa! I don’t think it’s silly, I think it takes a concetrated effort to break from that habit!
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These are great! I am learning that I can’t make everyone happy and I have to do what is right for me. Its hard but I am working on it. What a great list.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:23 am
Thank you, Tina! It was a rough lesson for me to learn too. I think it’s easy to try to make others happy, but it’s just something we can’t do!
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Such great advice – all lessons I wish I’d learned sooner.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:14 am
Thank you!
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Hi Stacey,
I love this post and I’m printing it for my daughters to read! Thank you for sharing your wisdom and great message. It’s powerful indeed…just as you are!
Heather
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:14 am
Thank you for your comment, Heather! I’m honored that you are printing that out for your daughters, thank you!
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Oh my dear goodness, I couldn’t agree more! I wish I could go back in time and tell myself all of those things too – especially “you won’t please everybody”.
Great post!
Stopped by from lady Bloggers to say hello!
Happy September!
- Meg
[Life of Meg]
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:12 am
Thank you for stopping by!
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Life is all lessons Stacy. The important things we should always remember is to learn from our mistakes and evolve accordingly. The more we become aware of the reality of things, the more we are elevated to a higher understanding.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:12 am
Thank you for your comment, Walter! You’re correct that if we learn from our mistakes we will always be growing – and that is very important!
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Great post Stacy
Your post made me think what I would say to my younger self and whether I would listen or not.
I then realized that my younger self would probably have freaked out and screamed “where the h$#% did all my hair go?”
Peter
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:11 am
You’re too funny!
I wonder too if I would have listened to myself!
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That is great advice!!!
I found your button on Bloggy Moms, so I’m following you now.
Heather
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:04 am
Thank you, Heather! I look forward to checking out your blog as well!
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This is the most inspirational piece I have read in a very long time. I could not have come across it at a better time! Thank you!
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:04 am
Thank you so much for your kind words, Stephanie! I hope that you stop by again for more inspirational posts!
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What an inspirational post…
I’m happy to have found this post today. Stopping by from LBS…
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 9:01 am
Thank you for stopping by Reenie! I’m glad that you liked the post. Stop by often more inspirational posts!
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Great post!!! If you don’t mind, I would like to print this particular post as a reminder when I fall off the porch and think I cannot get back up.
Thanks so much for this…Be Blessed.
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 8:57 am
Thank you for stopping by, Jay! Feel free to print out this post! That’s a great idea!
Thank you!
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@Jay Wes:
PS…Visiting from LBS
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:10 pm
I hope to see you here again, thank you for commenting!
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Thank you for doing the Life lesson series, Stacy! I am working with Abubakar on the series and your sweet and true lessons here enrich our list. Thank you!
“Most people aren’t out to get you – they are merely out for themselves.” <= So very true and wise!
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 8:44 am
Farnoosh, thank you so much for your comment and letting me participate in the series! I am excited to see it grow and what all is done with it!
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so glad you shared this post. i couldnt agree more with you
thank you
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 8:42 am
Thank you for commenting!
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These are some very valuable life lessons. I just tweeted this post to my 10,000+ followers. But I changed it and added to it. I do not like the title about your younger self. People learn things when they are ready to. Talking about your younger self is about the past and Eckhart Tolle’s message is about being in the present, not being sorry about the past.
Here is what I tweeted and feel free to change your title. “7 Life Lessons That Everyone Needs to Know.” I wanted to leave an example but I guess I should put it another post since it will make this one too long. 1. Worrying about what others think of you is the best way to ruin your chance of ever being happy.
Number 3 about only being able to change yourself is a great lesson but not totally original. Jesus said that you look for slivers in others’ eyes when you have logs in your own eyes. 4. Most people aren’t out to get you – they are merely out for themselves. This is reflected in the saying– “Misery loves company.”
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Stacy Reply:
September 10th, 2010 at 8:31 am
Chuck,
Thank you for your insightful comments and for the retweet! I really appreciate both. The reason for my title is that this particular post is part of a series with many other personal development bloggers on the topic of Life Lessons.
I don’t regret the past, I have learned some very valuable lessons from it. Lessons that I surely would not have learned had I not had my particular experiences. I’m glad to share them with others and glad to have them in my experiences!
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Above when I said that I changed it, I meant the title of your blog when I tweeted it. Since you have a B.A. in psychology I will give you something that psychology says about the past. It agrees with what Tolle teaches.
A very famous American psychologist, Abraham Maslow (1908-1970), said “I can feel guilty about the past, apprehensive about the future, but only in the present can I act. The ability to be in the present moment is a major component of mental wellness.”
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:11 pm
Thank you for your comment, that is a great quote from Abraham Maslow!
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I wish I’d known #3. I kept trying to change my first husband. In the end, I had to make changes in me.
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:12 pm
Sadly, many adults haven’t figured out that they can change only themselves. I have found that the happiest people are those who don’t try to change or control others!
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Wow…you hit everything that I had trouble with growing up and well into my 30′s. Wish I had this when I was younger- so to share this with my children is a MUST! My son who is 20 (a father too) is in need to hear this for sure.
Thanks!
~Pam
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Stacy Reply:
October 18th, 2010 at 10:02 am
Pam, please feel free to share the list with your children! I know that I want to teach these to my children when they are old enough to understand.
Stacy
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These are all great points, especially #2 “You differences make you unique and amazing.” Thanks for sharing these. (I’m visiting from The Girl Next Door contest.)
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Stacy Reply:
November 9th, 2010 at 7:59 pm
Hi Renee,
Thank you for your comment and sharing your thoughts! I appreciate it!
Stacy
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I couldn’t agree with you more. This is the way I live my life.
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:13 pm
Thank you very much for your comment!
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I read this again when I saw it RTed and I loved it even the 2nd time around, dear Stacy. My favorite phrase: “What seems to be malice is just thoughtlessness.” Thank you smart girl, I learned from you even on second pass today – and thank you for participating in the project!
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:15 pm
Farnoosh,
This is a very late reply to your comment! I am so glad to have had the opportunity to participate in the project, the book was wonderful!
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So very true! If only we could learn and always remember these lessons. They are so important. Our moms told us these things (usually) but we had to experience them for ourselves.
Blessings,
Mel
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:17 pm
Hi Mel,
Yes, so often we have to learn life’s lessons on our own! It’s a rare blessing when we don’thave to learn the hard way!
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Hi Stacy,
Your differences make you amazingly unique is just so true. There is no need to be a fake of an original. it pays to be your unique self at all times. I think society has found a way of poisoning our minds with through the media that people seems to have lost touch with their true self and simply going through life trying to catch up with the joneses.
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:20 pm
You have a great point about society teaching us that we have to keep up with the Joneses. The truth is that we should only try to be ourselves because everyone else is taken!
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Hi Stacy,
When I found your blog, I noticed this post in the sidebar and the title immediately attracted my attention!!
I have the same thoughts about how great it would have been to know at least some of these points when I was a teenager and also a bit later. But on the other hand “better later than never”
It was a pleasure to read your article
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Stacy Reply:
March 3rd, 2011 at 9:25 pm
Hi Justyna,
Thank you for sharing your thoughts! You’re right, better late than never!
Part of this post is actually now in an ebook just released a couple days ago! To get to the link click here: http://growwithstacy.com/archives/1687
Take care!
Stacy
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I couldn’t agree with you any more. It’s easy to pick at things that we don’t like about certain people, but that’s them! And you’re you!
This post is great. However, I guess we wouldn’t be who we are today without the lessons learned in the past, right? I guess it’s also one of those things where “You’ll understand when you get older”. I hated when my mother told me that >.<
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:23 pm
I hated to hear that too! Yet I suppose it won’t be long before I’m saying that to my own children!
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I think I made all those mistakes Stacy. It took me a long time to learn. I can remember specific times when I thought people were out to get me. That had me feeling very angry. I’m not good at expressing anger. I’m actually afraid of it.
I find it far better to let stuff go and not focus too much on “being angry” as many therapists suggest. It is an emotion and one I struggle with. It’s about spending appropriate time with it and moving on.
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Stacy Reply:
April 16th, 2011 at 5:48 pm
Hi Marty,
I think that you describe my feelings well: afraid of anger. I have always shrunk inside of myself when others around me were angry. I think that I was afraid of anger and also afraid of my own.
Thank you for sharing,
Stacy
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Very true to not let what others people’s opinions matter. It’s hard to not care when you’re younger because you always want to be part of the “popular” crowd. You make great points and hopefully we can start the cycle now with our kids and friend’s children.
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Stacy Reply:
May 6th, 2011 at 4:25 pm
Yes we really do view life differently when we grow up! I watch kids now and I don’t understand why they are so concerned with popularity. Yet I do remember the pull that I felt as a teenager.
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Stephanie Reply:
May 18th, 2011 at 1:13 pm
Same! It amazes me seeing girls in the malls or streets and I just think “I wonder I looked like that when I was their age”. I guess life is all about lessons and learning from our mistakes.
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Great post, Stacy! I know that one thing that I would tell myself if I was younger would be to be open to change. I can’t tell you how many things I would’ve laughed it if someone had told me about what I would do five or ten years ahead of time. Learning this lesson would’ve definitely saved a lot of headaches. Like Cooper said in Dead Man on Campus, “So what if you’re off your track. Maybe you were on the wrong track in the first place and this is your chance to get on the right track.”
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Stacy Reply:
May 9th, 2011 at 4:04 pm
Hi Steve,
Thank you for sharing that quote, it’s a great one!
Stacy
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You hit the right points, Stacy. The first one is the most serious issue: “Don’t worry about what others think about you.” My suggestion is just: “Life is too short to stress yourself with people who don’t even deserve to be an issue in your life” Have a nice day.
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Stacy Reply:
May 27th, 2011 at 2:47 pm
Thank you, all of those lessons were very impacting in my life.
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there nice lots of people enjoy..One of the first things that we learn is that when we cry someone tends to our needs.
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Stacy Reply:
May 27th, 2011 at 2:59 pm
Great point, maxel.
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Hi Stacy,
“Focusing on anger is a waste of your time and energy, plus it costs your physical health.”-
-This used to be a big issue of mine and once I conquered this, it made a huge difference in my coping skills and also felt a lot better physically.
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Stacy Reply:
May 29th, 2011 at 5:05 pm
Hi Sandy,
The connection between the mind and body is truly amazing! It really does not pay off to waste our time on anger.
Thanks for sharing!
Stacy
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If ONLY we knew these things when we were young, right? I guess life IS about lessons and learning from our mistakes. Great topic!
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Stacy Reply:
June 17th, 2011 at 3:27 pm
Yes, it reminds me of the saying “Youth is wasted on the young”
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Great advices. I remember the days when i used to follow… none of them.
But i like to think i’ve grown since then. Not yet perfect, but working on it. At least, i know where i went wrong and i know what to do to fix it. It’s a start.
Thanks Stacy!
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Stacy Reply:
August 9th, 2011 at 6:33 pm
Martin,
It sounds like you are doing great!
Stacy
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I know this is an older post but I just still had to comment, because I made a list like this myself a couple weeks ago and it looks almost EXACTLY like this! Even though neither of us had an older version of ourselves to impart all of this fantastic wisdom to us, I think it’s important to write it down so that maybe it can help someone else.
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Stacy Reply:
July 22nd, 2011 at 6:22 pm
Lizzy,
Yes, I agree that if the list helps even one person then it was worth taking the time to write down and share!
Thanks,
Stacy
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Hi Stacey,
Nice to be with your blog site again, You hit many important things in your topic and I appreciate it. So, all of these are good to apply in our lives make it guidelines as to develop some of our personality traits.
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Stacy Reply:
September 27th, 2011 at 4:22 pm
Thank you, it’s good to have you back again!
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4-7 really resonated with me. I really wish that I could have heard that at a younger age. I am still dealing with perfectionism and people pleasing so it was great to read this and be reminded once again to work on those.
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I have often wished that I could go back in time and tell the youthful me the useful tips and truths that took me so many years and experiences (sometimes painful) to figure out. At the same time those experiences are what helped mold me into the person I am today. And since my time machine is broken and I can’t relay my words of wisdom to my younger self, I try instead to teach my younger siblings the life lessons that I have learned in the hopes that they will still learn from their own mistakes, but hope that maybe they will absorb some of the stuff I say that could potentially make their lives a little easier.
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It is so luck for watching your blog, and thank you very much for you sharing. These seven tips is what I am always pursuing, although as said that in the same situation, we could console others but could not persuade ourselves. Anyway, I am just me and do what I like
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This was a great site ever! I love reading the 7 life lessons. Thanks for the post1 I will also share this post to all my friends.
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“Your differences make you unique and amazing!” Such great advice! I feel like I am telling that to everyone lately young and old alike. It is so important not to spend your energy on wishing yourself away.
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Stacy, this is a great list. A friend of mine many years ago related the advice of his father: “If you are invited to something, go!” I took this advice to heart and it has changed my life. If I could talk to my younger self, I would say, “If you are invited . . . go.”
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Stacy Reply:
January 5th, 2012 at 8:21 am
That’s great advice, it reminds me of that movie “Yes Man” though a little more practical than the idea of the movie which is to say yes to *anything* regardless of what it is.
Stacy
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LOL haven’t seen the movie, Stacy, but point well taken. The premise is that an invitation comes from a friend. I think we all receive “invitations” to help transfer funds out of a third world country and split the proceeds by simply supplying our bank account information!
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Certainly a nice article. But I think these lessons are the kinds of things kids don’t listen to – they can’t quite grasp it at that age. As they grow older, well-adjusted kids figure these things out for themselves.
One thing I would tell my younger self, though: “Don’t worry kiddo. Believe in yourself, and you’ll be just fine.”
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Stacy Reply:
January 26th, 2012 at 2:50 pm
Thank you. I agree, some kids don’t want to listen to advice and must learn everything the hard way. But it sure would have been nice to have been told these things – then I would have only had myself to blame!
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